What's Your Life Pattern?
What is a Life Pattern?
Imagine Life Patterns as the old, familiar songs that play in the background of our lives. These songs started when we were kids and have been following us around ever since. It's not something we did on purpose – we picked up these tunes when we were young. And guess what? These melodies keep playing over and over again, like a broken record. They pop up when we least expect it, even now as grown-ups.
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Think about it like this: as adults, we have these invisible guides that sometimes push us to act like we're still kids. These guides make us recreate situations that happened when we were small, even if they weren't good for us back then. It's like a movie replaying scenes from our childhood, and we don't even realize it's happening. So, these Life Patterns are like those old movies that keep showing up, making us do things without us even knowing why.
Life Patterns are false beliefs we learned about ourselves and the world. They deeply impact how we think and feel, view ourselves, and relate to others. They are an addictive attachment to the image we formed about ourselves and were trained to believe. They are the false beliefs and wounds of the Inner Child that become our emotional triggers.
Everyone has self-destructive life patterns. They started in childhood with things done to us by our families and other kids – abandoned, criticized, overprotected, abused, excluded, or deprived – we were damaged in some way. And they continue, in our Inner Child, to escort us through life to today. Long after we grow up and leave the home, we continue to reproduce similar situations and repeat the pain of childhood.
Changing our Life Patterns is the key to more fulfilling and successful relationships. By working with emotional triggers, by identifying, confronting, and overcoming them, we encounter the deeper, hopeful, positive, happy, and confident part of ourselves that’s ready for loving, respectful, and happy relationships.
