Some People with the Emotional Deprivation Life Pattern* Counterattack; they compensate for their feelings of deprivation by becoming hostile and demanding. These people are narcissistic. 

They act as if they are entitled to get all their needs met. They demand a lot, a...

Are you often frustrated with people?

People can't give what they don't have, no matter how much you try. Your Child Self has unmet emotional needs, that have gone unmet for so long; since childhood. As a child, you were primed to get your sense of self from interacti...

The Emotional Deprivation Life Pattern is the belief that your need for love will never be met adequately by other people. You feel that no one truly cares for you or understands how you feel. You are probably attracted to cold and unforgiving people, or you may be col...

[The Defectiveness Life Pattern]

People with the Defectiveness Life Pattern feel inwardly flawed and defective. They feel that no one can really love them because of how flawed they are. As a child, they were not respected for who they were in their family. Instead, the...

A Life Pattern is a pattern of false beliefs about yourself, that started in your childhood and has been with you throughout life. It began with something that was DONE to you by your family or other children. You were abandoned, criticized, overprotected, abused, excl...

The Social Exclusion Life Pattern has to do with feeling isolated from the rest of the world. You may feel different from others, specifically, you most likely felt socially undesirable, and as an adult, you may feel that you are ugly, unattractive, boring, fat, etc. Y...

This week I found myself saying and thinking “I can’t take it anymore” quite a lot: two of my kids who seem addicted to fighting; working very late, waking up late, and starting my day late; employers who want more work done yet feel payments can wait…

Not really such o...

Messaging Therapy is when professional therapy and counseling is provided using email or a secure messenger service to deliver communication between therapist and client.

Not A Different Kind of Therapy

We're not talking about a separate form of therapy, like Cognitive B...

Stuff happens in life and we react. That’s normal, makes sense. Hurt me, I feel pain. Reject me, I’m upset. Betray me, and I’m angry. But what about the overreactions? The reactions that are over the top, super intense, and way beyond what you’d expect? It’s feels like...

“We are products of our past, but we don't have to be prisoners of it.”

― Rick Warren, The Purpose Driven Life: What on Earth Am I Here for?

We struggle with our Life Patterns: false beliefs about who we are and how others will treat us, based on how we were treated grow...