Using triggered feelings to help you grow emotionally,
build confidence and validation, and improve all of your relationships
How to heal emotionally?
Self-awareness, insight, and getting to know yourself
Emotional healing requires self-awareness, insight, and getting to know ourselves, rather than avoiding and running from it. After all, you can’t fix something until you know what it is and that it’s not working. At the heart of our emotional struggles, is a lack of connection with our own voice, instincts, and feelings. Truly, deep down we know what’s best for us, what we feel and need, and how to be ourselves, but we don’t know that voice, and are unpracticed at hearing it. We’re out of touch with what we truly think, feel, need and want, addicted instead to external validation, clinging to false beliefs of self, and subservient to the views and outlooks of others. And it’s no wonder: there’s a natural bias all around us in favor of displaying positive emotions, which leads to pressure to seem happy no matter what. And that then backfires and makes us less happy. It’s living a lie, and it hurts and robs us of emotional well-being and successful relationships.
Be There For Yourself
"Break in," go into yourself
Only by breaking out – which is really “breaking in,” going into ourselves – can we heal and become emotionally skilled. We have to learn to trust ourselves and build a relationship with ourselves, by practicing allowing ourselves to get to know what we feel and name it, explore it, and connect with it intimately. The healing begins the moment we swivel from avoiding self and focusing on others and everything around us, to tuning into ourselves first and foremost, and developing our ability to be there for ourselves emotionally. It’s the opposite of abandoning ourselves and our feelings, perpetuating the experience of abandonment so many of us have known in life. Our experiences in youth and throughout the school years deliver to us a deeply embedded sense of self until we one day learn to stop, tune in, and get to know it. We all have the ability to be there for ourselves emotionally, and provide the emotional needs we’ve long gone without, but we never learned practically how to do it. Someday, it will be a solid part of school curriculum, and some efforts are already underway to make that so.
From Victim to Ownership
Things happen for me
Emotional intelligence is also about transitioning from being a victim to taking ownership and responsibility – that “things happen for me” instead of “things happen to me.” It’s the only way to sit with triggered emotions and get to know them, or use mistakes to increase our self-awareness and do more of what works and less of what doesn’t. And we take responsibility and exercise control over what’s in our power by being their for our emotions: naming, noticing, connecting with, allowing, and accept what we feel. That’s an action. Just as when a friend opens up to us about their emotional turmoil, what they need is for us hear and understand; giving advice or fixing the situation is not essential.
Live 50min. sessions available via video or phone calls, including all the major platforms: Zoom, Skype, Whatsapp, and more. You can freely explore the triggers, challenges, relationship struggles, and changes you're looking to make, in real-time, with a caring professional listener, ready to guide, support, and direct you and your steps forward. $165
Live 25min. sessions available via video or phone calls, including all the major platforms: Zoom, Skype, Whatsapp, and more. You can freely explore the triggers, challenges, relationship struggles, and changes you're looking to make, in real-time, with a caring professional listener, ready to guide, support, and direct you and your steps forward. $90
Therapy delivered through messaging. Write or audio-message whenever and as much as you need and want. Get daily responses Sunday-Thursday. Go at your pace and do what works for you. No obligation to write daily or a certain amount. You also get a 10-minute, live messaging session per month. $395 (Intro offer in place of $465)
All the benefits of messaging plus a weekly phone/video session. For when you're serious about your growth, ready to put in the work, and want lasting results faster. The Premium Package includes a weekly 50-minute session. $700
All the benefits of messaging plus a weekly phone/video session. For when you're serious about your growth, ready to put in the work, and want lasting results faster. The Standard Package includes a weekly 25-minute session. $600
Free 15 minute consultation.