It's hard to put into words how I feel. I'm definitely a people pleaser who has learned from my past mistakes, but I find myself in these binds, I tend to pull back. I do trust my own voice.
Appreciate your comment! I think the fact that it's hard to put into words is actually part of it. People pleasers often learned early that their inner experience wasn't easy to name, let alone share. What you're describing makes a lot of sense though. You've done real work, you trust your voice, and yet in those moments of tension the pull to go quiet still shows up. That's not the work failing. That's the gap between what your mind knows and what your nervous system still does out of habit. The trust is real. The pulling back is just the old protection running on a delay. Both things can be true at the same time.
It's hard to put into words how I feel. I'm definitely a people pleaser who has learned from my past mistakes, but I find myself in these binds, I tend to pull back. I do trust my own voice.
Appreciate your comment! I think the fact that it's hard to put into words is actually part of it. People pleasers often learned early that their inner experience wasn't easy to name, let alone share. What you're describing makes a lot of sense though. You've done real work, you trust your voice, and yet in those moments of tension the pull to go quiet still shows up. That's not the work failing. That's the gap between what your mind knows and what your nervous system still does out of habit. The trust is real. The pulling back is just the old protection running on a delay. Both things can be true at the same time.