Groaning Is the Beginning

Change doesn’t start with motivation. It starts with discomfort.

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Take a moment right now and think about your life.

Your job, your relationships, your daily routine.
Your health, your habits, your sense of purpose.

Now zoom in—what’s the first thing that comes to mind?

Is it something you appreciate about yourself?
Or is it what you wish were different?

If you’re like most people, it’s probably the second.
The stuff you still haven’t figured out. The version of yourself you wish you were by now.

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So Why Haven’t Things Changed Yet?

We all have moments where we dream about change:

• Starting a new habit

• Reaching out to a friend

• Learning a skill

• Getting up earlier (I’m still working on this one)

But too often, it stays in the realm of fantasy.
Why?

Because there’s a tug of war happening inside us.

On one side:
➡️ The will to grow
➡️ The desire to evolve
➡️ The part of you that wants more

On the other side:
➡️ The pull of comfort
➡️ The fear of failure
➡️ The part of you that says “Let’s not rock the boat.”

Sometimes it’s even the urge for a quick fix—something that feels good now, even if it costs you later.

And over time, that second voice can become the dominant one.

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The Turning Point? Discomfort.

You don’t change when things are fine.
You change when you’re done—when you’re sick and tired of being sick and tired.

You know the pattern. You’ve walked that same road over and over. You’ve tried pushing through with willpower, logic, even guilt.

And still, the results stay the same.

That frustration? That inner groaning?
That’s not weakness. That’s the beginning.

Because in the space where your old ways stop working…
A quieter voice emerges.

A voice that says: “This doesn’t have to be your story.”
“You’re allowed to want more.”
“You can start again. Right here.”

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Strengthen the Other Voice

That smaller voice—the one asking for something new—might feel weak at first.

But like a muscle, the more you use it, the stronger it grows.
Every time you listen, every time you take one small step in its direction, it gains momentum.

Chat after chat. Workout after workout. Boundary after boundary. Journal entry after journal entry.

This is how change begins—not with a giant leap, but with a decision to stop ignoring the groan. To stop pushing through pain and finally listen to what it’s trying to tell you.

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Final Thoughts: What’s Your Groan Trying to Say?

Change doesn’t begin with motivation.
It begins with discomfort you’re finally willing to face.

So pause and ask yourself:

• What’s one thing in your life that’s quietly aching for change?

• What’s the first small step you can take today to acknowledge it, move toward it, and grow it stronger?

You don’t have to overhaul your life.
You just have to stop pretending the groan isn’t there.

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Your Turn

💭 What’s the one area of your life where you’re “sick and tired of being sick and tired”?
Reply and tell me—I read every message.

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