The Power of Consistency: Why One Small Daily Practice Can Transform Everything
There’s no shortage of tools out there.
Podcasts, YouTubes, TikToks, Instagram reels.
Books filled with affirmations: “You’re amazing. You’re strong. You’ve got this.”
And the truth is they all work.
And none of them work.
Because the real difference isn’t the tool.
It’s what you do with it.
I’ve watched this play out again and again. People come to therapy armed with a mountain of techniques, but they’re still stuck. And when you look closer, the pattern is always the same:
They’re not consistent with the practice.
Or, they’re not connecting the practice to the deeper feelings underneath.
Without those two ingredients, even the best tool becomes another failed experiment.
Why Consistency Matters More Than the Tool
Take affirmations.
“I am worthy. I am lovable. I am enough.”
Sounds good, right?
But if underneath, your inner voice whispers:
“No you’re not. Look at the evidence. You’re broken. You’re unworthy.”
Then the words don’t land. They bounce off the surface.
The gap between what you’re saying and what you’re feeling grows wider.
That’s why I often ask people to stop chasing the next tool and start with one simple, consistent practice.
Every day, thirty seconds. Not more.
Pick one emotional moment, something from today, this week, this month, this year, 10 years ago, that stirred you.
Then, name the feelings.
Not “bad.” Not “stressed.”
But real feeling words. Hurt. Disappointed. Anxious. Lonely. Rejected.
And then notice: Where in your body did you feel it?
Was it in your chest? Your stomach? Your shoulders?
That’s it. Thirty seconds. Done.
It doesn’t sound like much, but here’s the truth:
That one tiny act, done consistently, changes everything.
Why Naming Feelings Works
Imagine a friend comes to you, tears in their eyes, and says:
“I feel scared. I feel invisible. I feel unwanted.”
You wouldn’t tell them, “Stop it. That’s stupid. You’re fine.”
You’d lean in. You’d listen. You’d validate.
That’s exactly what your inner child needs from you.
When you name your own feelings, you’re telling that younger part of you:
“I see you. I hear you. You matter.”
And something shifts.
The Kid Self feels less desperate, less chaotic.
The Adult Self feels more grounded, more in control.
This is why affirmations fail when they float on the surface. But when they’re anchored in the truth of what you’re actually feeling, they become real.
The Struggle With Consistency
Now here’s the hard part: consistency itself can feel unsafe.
Because if you’ve spent a lifetime telling yourself you’re not successful, that you always fail, then being consistent starts to challenge that old belief.
Suddenly, you’re proving yourself wrong.
And that feels uncomfortable, even threatening.
It’s easier to fall back into the familiar chaos.
To say, “See? I can’t stick with anything.”
But that’s not the truth.
That’s the old belief speaking.
The real you can start small, consistent, and steady.
A Story of Change
I’ll share about someone I worked with. I’ll call him David.
David had tried everything: journaling, meditation, breathing exercises, therapy, workshops. But nothing ever stuck.
When he came to me, he was frustrated and said, “I just don’t think anything works for me.”
So I asked him to do just one thing. Thirty seconds a day.
Look at a feelings chart.
Name three emotions from the day before.
Notice where they showed up in his body.
At first, he rolled his eyes. Too simple. Too basic.
But he tried it. And then he kept trying.
Two weeks later, he messaged me:
“I finally see why I shut down with my partner. It’s not anger. It’s disappointment. And I’ve been carrying that since I was a kid.”
That tiny practice cracked something open.
Because it wasn’t about the chart. It was about showing up for himself every single day.
What This Means for You
You don’t need another book.
You don’t need another podcast.
You don’t need to master 12 new techniques.
You just need one consistent practice that connects you to your emotions.
That’s the doorway to everything else:
Clearer boundaries
Less overthinking
Deeper self-trust
Freedom from old patterns
And once you feel that shift, even for a moment, you’ll know what it means to succeed at being there for yourself.
Why I Built the Telegram Coaching Group
This is why I created the $1/Day Emotional Support Coaching Group.
Because it’s not about piling on more tips.
It’s about making one consistent space where you can practice showing up for yourself, every single day.
Inside the group, you’ll get:
Daily bite-sized prompts to help you tune into your feelings.
My direct responses to guide you and keep you consistent.
A supportive group of people walking the same path.
Weekly live Zoom Q&A so you can go deeper and get clarity.
It’s practical. It’s doable. And it works. Because it helps you stay consistent.
So…
If you’ve tried a hundred things and nothing stuck, maybe the problem isn’t you.
Maybe you just needed a structure that makes consistency possible.
That’s what this group is for.
And we’re starting very soon.
Only 2 spots to fill until we launch. Make sure you’re on board.
👉 Join the $1/Day Emotional Support Coaching Group here
Small steps. Every day. Real change.