Great informative piece that's so needed by many. I too was a people pleaser. I believe most are, most are uncomfortably comfortable in it. Because of the fear of the unknown, of uncertainty. Yet it's the unknown where the juice is. Where we grow and feel most alive 🙏✨❤️
This was such a powerful and needed piece. I used to be a people pleaser too—and I think most people are, even if they don’t realize it. It’s uncomfortable, but familiar. The fear of the unknown keeps so many stuck. But that unknown? That’s where the growth happens. That’s where we come alive.
Your right when you say we weren't born to be people pleasers we were conditioned!
I was very clearly trained to be that way, stepping out of this people pleasing zone was like literally de-programing for me
I was trained as a child to be a sacrificial lamb:
Don't think about your self that's so selfish Tara
* Don't be so dramatic
* Don't play a victim
* You need to put everyone else first
None of those statements are inherently evil or bad but context, tone matters
I learned to always put myself last, to only think of everyone else, my needs didn't matter i needed to be the one to compromise
I had to give even if I was too tired, or sick, or sad and not say a word about it
I gave until I had nothing left to give
My cup was so empty it was bone dry!!
I'm so grateful that I have healed from this! It has hurt me so much mentally, physically and even spiritually!
I really appreciate that you took the time and wrote this article! That you designed a course even to help others with this!! Because its so damaging!! I REALLY hope someone who needs it reads it and takes your course so they can be spared the consequences!!
You're right. People-pleasing isn't natural, it's conditioned. I was trained from a young age to be the one who always gives, always compromises, always puts myself last. Phrases like "Don't be selfish," "Don't be dramatic," and "Put everyone else first" were drilled into me. On their own, they don’t seem harmful, but in context, they taught me to silence my needs completely. I gave until I was empty: physically, mentally, spiritually. Healing from that has been life-changing. Thank you for writing this and creating a course that helps others undo that damage. I hope it reaches the people who need it.
Great informative piece that's so needed by many. I too was a people pleaser. I believe most are, most are uncomfortably comfortable in it. Because of the fear of the unknown, of uncertainty. Yet it's the unknown where the juice is. Where we grow and feel most alive 🙏✨❤️
This was such a powerful and needed piece. I used to be a people pleaser too—and I think most people are, even if they don’t realize it. It’s uncomfortable, but familiar. The fear of the unknown keeps so many stuck. But that unknown? That’s where the growth happens. That’s where we come alive.
Your right when you say we weren't born to be people pleasers we were conditioned!
I was very clearly trained to be that way, stepping out of this people pleasing zone was like literally de-programing for me
I was trained as a child to be a sacrificial lamb:
Don't think about your self that's so selfish Tara
* Don't be so dramatic
* Don't play a victim
* You need to put everyone else first
None of those statements are inherently evil or bad but context, tone matters
I learned to always put myself last, to only think of everyone else, my needs didn't matter i needed to be the one to compromise
I had to give even if I was too tired, or sick, or sad and not say a word about it
I gave until I had nothing left to give
My cup was so empty it was bone dry!!
I'm so grateful that I have healed from this! It has hurt me so much mentally, physically and even spiritually!
I really appreciate that you took the time and wrote this article! That you designed a course even to help others with this!! Because its so damaging!! I REALLY hope someone who needs it reads it and takes your course so they can be spared the consequences!!
You're right. People-pleasing isn't natural, it's conditioned. I was trained from a young age to be the one who always gives, always compromises, always puts myself last. Phrases like "Don't be selfish," "Don't be dramatic," and "Put everyone else first" were drilled into me. On their own, they don’t seem harmful, but in context, they taught me to silence my needs completely. I gave until I was empty: physically, mentally, spiritually. Healing from that has been life-changing. Thank you for writing this and creating a course that helps others undo that damage. I hope it reaches the people who need it.
Corrections noted and appreciated.