Another amazing read Zalman!! So much of this resonated for me! I struggled with over thinking most of my life...it's only recently that I am not engaging in that as much...I mean I still occasionally fall back into that mode but nothing I can't get my way out of!! Everything you wrote here is so true...people pleasing isn't a personality traits!! Its a survival mechanism...most people will take thorough advantage of that...but every so often someone will absolutely refuse your efforts to please...at first it felt terrifying...I remember thinking how can I relate to you if I can't please you 😅 honestly I don't know if anyone else has ever experienced something like that.. where someone is just like flat out not having it...I have only run into 1 perosn in my whole life who refused to allow it...now I understand why! I still think about how odd normal felt...when your used to toxic or unhealthy things normal feels soo uncomfortable and so foreign
Another amazing read Zalman!! So much of this resonated for me! I struggled with over thinking most of my life...it's only recently that I am not engaging in that as much...I mean I still occasionally fall back into that mode but nothing I can't get my way out of!! Everything you wrote here is so true...people pleasing isn't a personality traits!! Its a survival mechanism...most people will take thorough advantage of that...but every so often someone will absolutely refuse your efforts to please...at first it felt terrifying...I remember thinking how can I relate to you if I can't please you 😅 honestly I don't know if anyone else has ever experienced something like that.. where someone is just like flat out not having it...I have only run into 1 perosn in my whole life who refused to allow it...now I understand why! I still think about how odd normal felt...when your used to toxic or unhealthy things normal feels soo uncomfortable and so foreign
Thank you Zalman!
Appreciate U :)