🔍 From Breakdown to Breakthrough: Why I Do What I Do

How a heart attack, a collapsed identity, and an unexpected healing journey led me to help people-pleasers come back home to themselves

Me and my three youngest (out of 8!)—they taught me so much about healing my own Inner Child

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I didn’t always know how to show up for myself.

Like many of the people I now work with, I grew up absorbing quiet, persistent messages about who I had to be to feel safe, loved, and accepted:

Don’t be too much.
Don’t make anyone uncomfortable.
Be helpful. Be agreeable. Be strong—even if it means swallowing your needs.

By the time I hit college, I was chasing something—achievement, connection, control—but I couldn’t find the center of it.

Then life cracked open.

A knee injury ended my athletic career. I was struggling in school. I didn’t have the tools to process or reorient. I felt lost and directionless.

And then my dad had a heart attack.

That’s when something shifted.

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The Wake-Up Call

That moment forced me to stop numbing out and start paying attention.
We changed our eating habits together. I started cooking with him. We talked more. And underneath the physical changes, something deeper began to surface.

I realized I didn’t just want to survive life. I wanted to understand it.
I wanted to feel anchored—not just by discipline, but by meaning.

And that became my path.

Slowly, I found myself on a spiritual journey, then an emotional one, and eventually a professional one—toward helping others reconnect to themselves and find peace where there used to be only pressure and performance.

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From Therapist to Teacher

I trained in psychotherapy. I earned degrees. I opened a practice. And for 16+ years, I’ve helped people uncover the beliefs that quietly drive their guilt, self-abandonment, and emotional burnout.

But something kept nagging at me.

Insight wasn’t always leading to change.
People would leave sessions feeling seen—but go back into their lives and fall into the same patterns. Not because they weren’t trying. But because the real work doesn’t just happen once a week in session.

It happens in the in-between.

In the moment you want to say no—but don’t.
When someone’s tone triggers you—and you freeze.
When you over-apologize, overthink, or quietly spiral.

That’s when people need real tools. A roadmap. Structure and support.

So I shifted.

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What I Do Now

These days, I’ve moved beyond traditional therapy into a hybrid of coaching, teaching, and structured healing programs. I work with people-pleasers, high-functioners, and emotionally aware but overwhelmed humans who are finally ready to reclaim their worth.

What I offer now is simple, but powerful:

• Tools to stop abandoning yourself emotionally

• Systems to build boundaries without guilt

• A new way to relate to the Inner Child who still carries those early beliefs

• Daily support to make it stick

Because healing isn’t just about insight. It’s about implementation.

You don’t need to be fixed.
You just need to come home to yourself—and have support while you do.

And that’s what I’ve built this community for.

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You’re not too much. You’re not too late.
You’re just ready.

Let’s do this together.
—Zalman