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Brittany Alperin, PhD's avatar

I was just thinking about this the other day. Thanks for putting this into words. I’ve started taking care of myself first during little moments. Pouring my morning beverage before bringing my partner coffee. Putting my groceries away before giving my dog all of the attention. I can’t give my full attention to the next thing if I’m neglecting myself, and I know that.

Zalman Nelson's avatar

Yes, Brittany, that’s exactly it! Those small, intentional moments matter so much. It’s not about grand gestures of self-care, but about retraining your nervous system to believe you matter, too. Your examples are beautiful and relatable. Thank you.

John Overman's avatar

This actually did take me some time to figure out. I still put others first, but I’ve learned not to let that be at my expense. The more you take care of yourself, the more you can do for others.

Zalman Nelson's avatar

Absolutely, John. That’s a powerful shift: still caring for others, but not abandoning yourself in the process. It’s not selfish, it’s sustainable. That kind of balance actually makes your giving more grounded and less depleting. Grateful you shared this.