Zalman Nelson - Therapist
Why Do I Get Triggered So Easily?
Updated: May 22, 2022
It’s great you're emotionally triggered. That person was sent into your life, attracted by you and your Child Self, in order to interact with you, generate a certain dynamic, and arouse all those feelings.
Remember: kicking up those feelings is the whole point. Why? Because then you can really know, feel, and experience what you Child Self feels, and needs you to help her with.
She has some uncomfortable feelings, needs to be heard and accepted, and needs your help identifying her unmet emotional needs underneath those uncomfortable feelings.
BUT, unlike when you were a kid and just a Child Self, now you're TWO: a Child Self and an Adult Self, and are able to hear, notice, observe, accept, and work with those feelings. You’ll see it…it’s all familiar: the same feelings your Child Self felt way back as a kid.
Enter the emotionally triggering person, whose gift is putting you in touch with those very feelings, right there. But now, you have a huge advantage and opportunity to grow and succeed. You don’t have to wonder what all those feelings are when you're actively feelings them.
It’s like you have a small kid, 7-year-old-you, hanging out with you, by your side, 24/7. Talk to her, hanging out with her, hear her, build a relationship with her, and let her feel heard and understood for the first time.